The University of Central Florida’s Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) held a “Question, Persuade, Refer,” or “QPR a Thon” on Wednesday where students learned the ins and outs of suicide prevention.
In just a 60-minute training session, each participating student became a “gatekeeper,” who by definition in the QPR Institute website, is “someone in a position to recognize a crisis and the warning signs that someone may be contemplating suicide.”
CAPS QPR instructor Krystal Pollack taught students the nuances of the “question, persuade, refer” process by first assessing the textbook signs of suicidal behavior. These include fluctuation in appetite and sleeping patterns (too little or too much sleep), a decrease in self-esteem and concentration, and an increase in social isolation and excessive use of alcohol and other substances.
Participants were also trained to stay alert for verbal, situational, and behavioral cues that may prompt the “suicide conversation” with those who may be at risk. Situational cues may include loss of a job, relationship, loved one, or familiarity with their surroundings which lead to dangerous behavioral changes such as purchasing pills, a firearm, or a knife.
By taking all signs seriously, gatekeepers must then choose the correct language to spark the suicide conversation.
“Many people don’t get involved because they’re not sure what to say or how to ask questions,” Teresa Chmelir, Associate Director of Outreach and Community Intervention at CAPS said. “We are here to help.”
Gatekeepers learned less-stigmatizing ways to approach asking people if they have suicidal thoughts, according to Pollack. Everyone is advised to address his or her concerns in a private setting and ask an open-ended question. For example, one could say, “I’ve noticed drastic behavior, and I am worried you may be having suicidal thoughts. Am I right?”
One should not directly tell the distressed, “I know exactly how you feel,” or “it will all work out; don’t worry,” and one should especially not say, “you just need to go out and have a good time.” These statements will invalidate their emotions and distresses. Gatekeepers must persuade them to keep moving forward. Perhaps, one could provide a sense of belonging and encouragement with, “I want you to live; we will get through this,” and, “if they are reluctant, be persistent.” Finally, if needed, everyone should refer those suffering to someone who can help further.
“The training program was very effective,” participant Kristyna Ceuninck said. “I feel now I know exactly what to do, what to say, and what not to say.”
CAPS recognizes that “suicide is the second leading cause of death in the United States,” but the final words of the QPR presentation may be the simple solution: “ask a question, and save a life.” Simply showing one’s genuine support and care can truly prevent such tragedy.
If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please contact CAPS at 407-823-2811 or UCF’s Health Center at 407-823-2701. CAPS business hours are Monday-Thursday 8:00 AM – 6:00 PM and Friday from 8:00 AM – 5:00 PM. If you call CAPS after business hours, press #5 to speak directly with a crisis hotline counselor.
